First Step to Loving Yourself

The first incredible website I found online with the topic of self-love is called First Love You. This site has an assortment of really great articles on learning to love yourself. I recommend checking it out. Their technique focuses on becoming Alpha Females/Males and tapping deep into your personal power. It's a cool concept. They also have a lot of relationship and dating advice. I really liked the mental exercises suggested in some of the articles. So, for the next few days I'm going to work on them and report back.

First Step to Loving Yourself (www.firstloveyou.com)

We give and nurture… sometimes to the point of resentment… and then expect others to fill our emotional well. It simply doesn’t work that way.

The first step in learning how to love yourself is healing your past.

It’s so important to figure out WHY you believe what you do about yourself, and HOW you came to believe it.

Self-Esteem Exercise #1 - Make a List of Everything You Think About Yourself

Grab a piece of paper and a pen and write your name in big letters at the top. Allow yourself to write freely all over the page to answer the question “Who am I?”. You might start with your job title, or some role that you play (“daughter to so-and-so” or “godmother to ______”), and then you may move on to more descriptive words. “I am strong”, “I am weak”, “I am clumsy”, “I’m not happy all the time”, “I laugh a lot”.

Don’t just scratch the surface on this. Try to recall every little thing that someone has said about you. Write down every nickname people have given you. Write down what your high school sweetheart used to call you. Write what your old boss said about you in your last performance review. Write down every rumor you’ve heard about yourself. Write and think, write and think. Dig deep.

After you do this, take a look at your list. What ideas from your past have you been carrying around? What thoughts have shaped your reality? What is your ‘Ego’ made of?